This morning I had a call from a friend wanting to share some news that on the surface was very bad news for him. He asked me if I could help him find some light in the subject.
One of the things I've found difficult in my own life when I've had shall we say challenging situations is to get distance to look at them from a more considered point of view. Inside the situation and in the moment we have the feeling we're powerless to do anything.
What I've found helpful is the power of breathing. Yes I know we all breathe all the time and take it for granted. But the power of the deliberate breath and the pause that happens when we take the deliberate breath can save us from all kinds of actions we might regret later. The physical move, the hurtful word and instinctive kick back at those attacking us.
It's not always easy to remember to do it. Like many things it takes practice and it takes commitment. But as a regular practice, at the least it connects you to the part of the nervous system that calms you down and then you might be able to find a different way of moving on. The old saying of take ten breaths has much to commend it.
And my friend - well I sent him away laughing which is never a bad thing