Nothing odd you might think. Millions of people carry out this task every day.
For some it's a pleasure, for some only another job to tick off the to-do list.
I'll let you into a secret...
I've been wandering round like a lost soul for the last few months in search of a hairdresser.
Last summer it's not too strong to say I felt betrayed when my hairdresser told me she was moving her salon. Unfortunately for me, it was to a place that wasn't on an easy public transport route.
Twenty years plus I'd been going there. She was used to all my hair challenges and foibles. I trusted her when she suggested a new style or colour.
At a stroke, all over. The final chop.
Logically I understood her business reasons for moving and wished her well. Sensible move to secure the long term future of her business. But I felt bereft.
Maybe you're wondering if in the meantime, I've avoided the hairdressers locally. No and if you saw my event videos I hope it shows that I'd taken care.
But... despite the best efforts of the salon I went to, it didn't feel right. And when I had to cancel an appointment in January because of illness, I chose not to remake it.
Now on the recommendation of a friend I've taken the plunge again and I'm delighted with the result.
How to make connections that stick
You know how you feel when you meet somebody and there's a connection?
As soon as he applied his scissors to my hair, I felt in safe hands.
The proof of the cooking is in the eating and the proof of a good haircut is when I come to wash it myself.
I have every expectation though that I'll go back to the hairdresser
As I'll go back to writers I trust not to abuse my tolerance regardless of their skill.
This morning I was having a conversation with Sharon Crawford of Living Your Divinity about op-tins. When and how we should ask for them and what if anything we should offer in exchange.
One of the things that I respected about my speakers is that they were prepared to connect before they made any effort to sell to participants. When choosing speakers I crossed some off my list.
Interesting they were. Yes.
But with some I felt bombarded after I signed up to a newsletter.
This morning at the hairdressers, I was thanked for my visit and reminded, gently, that they'd be pleased to see me again, when I needed them.
Missing out on a sale because they didn't push me into making another appointment?
No because if they'd tried that, they'd have hit some resistance from me. Pleased though I was with the visit and the result, I wanted the next move to be in my control.
And that's what I have to remember when I approach others.
What do you think?