The problem is that if we make ourselves too precious in terms of having to be separate to find that silence we can create tensions in our lives that we really don't need.
How do we create silence anywhere?
We can't make people stay quiet - if you have children around that's an impossible goal most of the time.
I know that our lives are not made up of generally peace and quiet… and yet, and yet. Have you ever had the experience of being in a really busy place and suddenly all of the sounds seem to disappear. It’s as if everything fades away except that you’re there and the stillness and silence is there. It’s an extraordinary experience when it happens. It’s happened to me sometimes when I’ve been in love and all the rest of the world might not exist. Just me and the person that I love.
If we consider what we’re working on, practising, is being at one with the greatest love that’s possible to imagine, then it follows that the silence that we seek in quiet places is actually there everywhere. It’s there in the football stadium, when everyone holds their breath when someone takes a kick; it’s there by the sea when all you think you can hear are crashing waves… and the wind. It’s there in the stillness between the notes when you listen to a concert.
It’s there all the time. So although it’s wonderful to be in places that are quiet; it’s wonderful to go away from people and enjoy the different stillness of being there, it’s wrong of us to consider that that’s the only place we can experience silence.
So wherever you’re sitting as you read this, it’s likely that there is noise there, very likely, even if it’s only the noise of your body – the internal noises that there are. I sit here in my office and I can hear the hum of one of the pieces of equipment. It’s not disturbing, it’s simply there. But underneath that, if I let that fade there is a deeper silence available for me.
How easily can you find that silence right now?